Fear of Lack and Fear of Being not Enough
Fear is an
unpleasant emotion caused by any type of a considered threat. A certain fear may even be the origin of a
phobia. There is a long list of fears
related to considered threats, some of those physically quite dangerous and,
obviously understandable, but fear of lack and fear of not being enough are different
as they are non-physical.
Fear of
lack and fear of being not enough, are fears not seen with a naked eye, often
not easily identified or recognized, exponentially growing in this society, who
encourages people to a continuous “want” to have more and more every day. The
result is becoming catastrophic to everyone, physical and non-physical as it is
quite destructive to the environment of our beloved planet Earth.
At a time
so many are talking about the environment and climate change, there should be a
wide surge of interest in helping those that are, at this time, deeply involved in this fear of lack and fear of not
being enough, many of which are not even aware of and only recognize it when
someone else confronts them or presents the issue.
Let’s face
it - No one wants unpleasant emotions, and prolonged fears do become quite uncomfortable,
unpleasant, and many times unbearable to the point of making the person ill.
How?
A sudden
fear may be a perceived threat from a wide variety of dangerous or not so dangerous
threats, from a dog barking right next to you, or seeing a spider; when this happens
the hypothalamus - a tiny region at the brain’s base - sets off an alarm system
in the body. Through a combination of nerve and hormonal signals, this system
prompts the adrenal glands, located atop your kidneys, to release a surge of
hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol.
Adrenaline
increases heart rate, elevates blood pressure and boosts energy supplies.
Cortisol, being the primary stress hormone, increases sugar (glucose) in the
bloodstream, enhances the brain's use of glucose and increases the availability
of substances that repair tissues.
Cortisol
also controls functions that would be nonessential in a fight-or-flight
situation. It alters immune system responses and suppresses the digestive
system, the reproductive system and growth processes. This complex natural
alarm system also communicates with the brain regions that control mood,
motivation and fear.
This is a
normal and natural response process, but when it goes wild because of a loop on
the fight or flight situation, or being under the constant fearing attack, the
reaction and the process is constantly turned on. Then the long-term activation
of the stress-response system and the overexposure to cortisol and other stress
hormones can disrupt almost all the body's processes. This
increases the risk of many health problems such as:
1 - Anxiety
2 - Depression
2 - Digestive
problems
3 - Headaches
4 - Heart disease
5 - Sleep disorder
6 - Weight gain
7 - Memory and
concentration impairment
The feeling
that, no matter what you do, there is never going to be enough - not enough
money, not enough time, not enough food, not enough partying, not enough
clothes, not enough shoes, not enough jewelry, not enough furniture, not enough
technology items, not enough vacation trips, not enough god knows what, and
even, not enough energy to do it all and enjoy and appreciate it all,
originates an addictive state, which often enough, deeply roots a state of forever wanting more.
originates an addictive state, which often enough, deeply roots a state of forever wanting more.
The worry
and anxiety walk hand in hand making the perfect cocktail for cortisol to be on
a whack once again overloading the body and it´s normal functions, and so this
becomes a way of life of many who don´t understand why they feel strange,
depressed, anxious and never happy, appreciative and grateful of what they
really have.
Any of this
sounds familiar?
When one
focus too much on what they don´t have, they rarely appreciate what they do
have, and are many times consumed by jealous feelings toward friends, when they
get something they want.
Adding to
the overload of stress hormones, the continuous “competing and comparing”, becomes
addictive and generates terrible envy energies for the one who envies and for
the one who is envied. These energies are strong and truly an impediment for
anyone to move on in life in a healthy environment and lifestyle. Envy energies
must be cleared, shifted and transmuted for the return of wellbeing of the
involved.
The
rollercoaster of feelings of fear of not having enough, not being enough,
usually originate blaming someone else for not having what they think they
should have. It´s like mirroring the problem or projecting it.
The fear of
lack or fear of not being enough may very well be, something acquired from
induced beliefs through childhood and when it is so, it is best to treat them
through either self-hypnosis, or with the help of a hypnosis practitioner. It is necessary to understand where those
beliefs came from, make peace with them and everyone involved, forgive, shift
them and move on.
A
persistent feeling of “not-enoughness” , feeling of inadequacy, fear of going
without something or someone, lack of self-confidence, often arise from
negative thought beliefs or patterns related to time, money and
relationships.
Mindset beliefs
are most often encouraged by family, friends, society - the environment in general - and are built around life experiences and how we interpret and perceive those
experiences.
Energy
flows to where one puts its attention to - if one puts too much attention on
fears of lack or fears of not being enough, the physical part of you is going
to ring the alarms constantly and when not heard and answered you can be sure
you will become ill.
The first
step to undue all of this is to start by asking yourself:
1 – Do I
have fear of lack? Lack of what? Why? When did I start feeling this way?
2 – Do I
have fear of not being enough? Why? When did I start feeling this way?
When you
identify the fears, you should look for the proper treatment and in order to
help you with that, I recommend looking for Marisa Peer on any platform online.
Marisa Peer is a British renowned
Psychologist and Hypnotherapist who has specifically specialized in this area
of fear of lack and fear of not being enough. There are countless videos on
YouTube on this subject regarding Marisa Peer’s work which I have studied, tested
and highly recommend. At the bottom you will find a very short video with a clip from an interview of Marisa Peer from London Real.
Be grateful
for what you have, especially for what you genuinely are, genuinely like,
genuinely need and genuinely want; then learn
the word NO, and use it nicely!
