Love, Wedding, Marriage

Is the Universal meaning of Love, Wedding and Marriage the  same our actual society attributes to them? 

Love is an energy, a force, a force of Nature, a force of the Universe, but it is usually and mostly thought as a feeling, an emotion.

Love is a way of being.

Love is mostly thought of as a feeling or an emotion that can create addiction and pain. Neuroscience has concluded, people sometimes respond to some love feelings and emotions the same way they respond to addictive drugs – the more they have, the more they want.

Simply thinking about the person you love generates activity in the ventral tegmental area (VTA) of the brain, releasing a flood of the neurotransmitters - dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin (dopamine = “pleasure chemical”) into the brain’s reward (or pleasure) centers—the caudate nucleus and nucleus accumbency. This experience gives lovers moments of amazingly addictive highs. In addition, people often seek love and adoration to feel good because they lack – Self-love.

An Emotion — is a belief, a meaning in a felt way – some sort of a reaction to a belief.

A Feeling — is the perception of who you are or about something or someone.

Emotions or feelings are conditioned by many factors, they can be positive or negative, they are polarized and dependent on others.

Many a time’s people go through relationships of infatuation and dependence for years on end thinking they have a love relationship.

Love is much more than a feeling or emotion, though!     

          

Love is a strong energy that gives us a deep understanding and perception from the Universe and into the whole.   This love energy was inserted into our DNA upon our creation and it is used (or not) only according to our beliefs and discernments.

Used properly for what it was created for, this energy gives us the ability to understand, comprehend, respect and accept the Universe, and all its Creation, without wanting to change them. Love is free from judgments, beliefs, concepts, prejudices or wants.

Love does not want – LOVE does not need anything - Love is

In the Bible, this Corinthians passage is very insightful:

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

(1 Corinthians 13:4-8 New International Version (NIV))

In this last versicle (8) it confirms how this beautiful LOVE energy can be destroyed if there are different or discording insights.

I was raised, like many others,  wrongly believing love is an emotion or a feeling. I was taught to believe that! And I was also taught to believe that being a girl, loved a guy, married him forever until death do us part. 

Reality was different though, and so what I had chosen and put on “my menu”   was (up until now) two marriages, two weddings and two divorces. And I believed this fairytale story for many years,  I was actually naïve, and so I thought I was jinxing my life, I was unlucky at love and marriage, until I came to the awareness of what LOVE really is, and I was reborn. Today I know I was not jinxed or unlucky; I have been living my life the way I have chosen for the experiences I wanted to have before I was born. Why do I consider myself reborn? Because being awaken, I have my right perception about who I am and what my experiences should be to accomplish what I came to do in this lifetime.

LOVE simply is – Love is a way of being - when you synchronize this energy between your heart, brain and spirit – you will not only feel WHOLE but also part of the WHOLE Universe.

The Wild Offerings Oracle Cards by Tosha Silver 

The problem is :

-          We have to love ourselves (first) – many do not.

-          We must learn who we are and love that.

-          We must know what we want out of life and love that too.

-          We must do us instead of what others expect of us.

-          We must do us instead of what others are doing.

-          We must want instead of need.

-          We must be instead of want.

Influenced by family, friends, teachers and society in general, it is difficult to be able to discern all of the above without getting trapped into the wrong idea of LOVE.

Every single relationship serves a purpose to learn and evolve in some or other area. It is then important to meditate and reflect on that learning and move on.

It is a mistake thinking that a good relationship should be forever! A relationship lasts as long as it is required in order to learn the needed lesson or experience  – then we move on to the next.

People may come to us for a few minutes or a lifetime – it really depends what is at stake, what is the lesson, what is the experience, what is the connection, what is the purpose.

Although love does not have to be related to romantic relationships, for the sole purpose of this article and in a very light tone, let´s just talk about marriage and wedding - the difference between the two is also abyssal.

In the Universal sense “marriage” does not convey a “wedding” and is typically pre-selected before we are born.  Like I usually say: it´s something we select from the menu of experiences we want to have in this lifetime, before we are born.  Yes, we can say our marriages are prearranged, but they are prearranged by us; according to the experience we still want to have with that person and what we still want to learn or perfect. We often marry the same person, over and over again, for different experiences or learnings.

While the wedding is a social traditional celebration, the marriage is the union between two people who have made the choice to reunite from other lifetimes.  A marriage is therefore a contract between two people from previous lifetimes which is separate from any social or religious contract before society.

Can marriage and wedding run within the same high vibration energy of love? Of course it can, and actually, it should. The issue is:  - does it always? No! It has its highs and lows. Although, they many a times pretend to walk together in harmony, in reality it is a constant work in progress.  The energies involved, need to be adjusted and refined because of the particular "needs and wants" of each partner involved in a marriage or a wedding. On the other side of the spectrum, many a times there is LOVE – the energy of LOVE -  sitting in our DNA, static,   waiting to be used properly, flowing through the full body conveniently, truthfully, constantly, happily, joyfully and harmoniously. When  it awakens and is conscientiously put to work, as it slowly and steadily flows through all of our physical, mental and spiritual being - LOVE becomes a way of being.

Much Love and Light!