How to Deal with Different Ethics or the Lack of them
Whether you have learned social or work ethics in your past and now you don’t identify or resonate with the one’s that surround you, is important to learn How to Deal with Different Ethics or the Lack of them, so you stay true to your values while respecting others.
Ethics are
learned, or not, early in life either from parents, teachers or friends.
Sometimes you even learn by the lack of ethics of others by choosing to be
different.
Having a
moral compass as a guide for daily living such as – don’t do onto others what
you won’t do onto you - helps evaluate whether the behavior is appropriate for
us and others.
Ethics,
morals and beliefs are usually personal and society's sense of right or wrong,
appropriate or not, is too divided in groups with different personal interests
which affects our way of living. This great divide is in most cases so deep
that is able to change people’s lifestyles making them feel they belong! It
does this by establishing new rules, principles, and values on which people base
their conduct but sometimes do not resonate with…but continue to support it
just for the sake of “belonging” to the group.
On the
other hand it is difficult when you have a whole set of rules, ethics, morals
and beliefs that do not resonate with your peers, and so you either annul yourself
or them; either way is not easy or convenient.
If you
annul your own ethics and withdraw from your own beliefs to be in good spirits
with others, sooner or later you will resent yourself for it and your stress
hormones (cortisol) will build up and accumulate, making a good combination for
a perfect storm between you and the others involved.
If you
annul other’s ethics for the sake of your own, sooner or later you will have
plenty of enemies.
How do you
deal with this sense of “you’re dammed if you do and you’re dammed if you don’t”?!
- No one has
to lose their identity for the sake of others.
- No one has
to drop their beliefs, ethics and morals just because they are different.
- No one has
to suffer from someone’s lack of ethics, lack of a moral compass, or different
beliefs.
Respect!
Respect is
what is requested in every instance and every situation…but this does not mean you have to accept the lack
of ethics from others.
Acknowledge,
respect and step aside. If you can’t physically step aside, simply do it
mentally.
You may
choose to express it to the other person somethings like – I respect your way
of being but I do not accept it as I am different, or instead or verbalizing you
may simply say it in your mind. By doing this you establish a distance from the
thought energy of the other person and it is the start to building a new
boundary.
Complaining
about ethics of the lack of them, does not help or resolve the matter.
People are
all different and the sooner we all understand and respect the difference the
better.
We are ALL
ONE – Yes! We are all the same – NO!
The beauty and
richness of human beings is exactly in the difference, and the difference must
be respected.
We are all
created with the same basic body parts and functions, but ethics, feelings and
needs might be different, and that is fine as long as we respect each other equally.
Mutual
respect!
How to deal with different ethics or the lack
of them? – With mutual respect! But if mutual respect
is not reached, then the only feasible way is to make a distance – between you
and the other - which may be physical but it may be mental and spiritual as
well, depending on the type of engagement or arrangement you need to have with
those people. On a last note: the
distance may be only mental or spiritual when it is not possible to physically distance
yourself from the other – by disengaging yourself and your thoughts from the
other you are no longer a participant of their own ethic or belief, but your
very own.
Much Love
and Light!