The Neuroscience of Being Kind
There are significant scientific studies published regarding kindness and the positive effects of being kind. The Neuroscience of Being Kind has been subject to several research studies in the field of contemplative neuroscience, and the actual proven results in the specific area of kindness, interests me because it gives me needed answers regarding human behaviors.
One of my
preferred areas of science, other than Nutritional Science, Biology and
Epigenetics, is Neuroscience; it
fascinates me to understand how the brain acts and reacts in response to each
person’s behavior.
I would
like to disclose that although I love to be up in the ethereal, breathe in and
listen to the information coming from above, which includes the guidance of one
of my dearest Spirit Guides who allows me to call him João and was a
Neurologist in his last past life, I also like to research and get excited when
I arrive to proven research studies, done by talented and committed scientists
working at this actual time on earth. My spirit guides and my guardian angels all know how well I like to prove my “findings” for the benefit of those that do “not believe without seeing”.
Focusing on
a question I was asked as to how I choose the timing or frequency and the order
of these articles by subjects - as I have disclosed in other articles - all of
my writings on Awakening of a Blue Moon have
the assistance of my team of Spirit Guides and Guardian Angels – meaning –
these subjects I write about, not only, have been my own subjects of study but
they are randomly chosen to be written about by my team. I never had to choose
a subject or look for a theme – they have found me each day I write them; as
for the order?!... I use no order – they choose the order which I think is
random, but since, up above they are all much more organized than I am, I am
sure they must be showing me an order that I should recognize but simply do not remember!
Getting
back to The Neuroscience of Being Kind –
let’s first understand what being kind is.
Being kind is a gift given to oneself, to another human
being, or any other kind of living being. Being a gift, it simply cannot be
faked or have any other reason behind, other than, unselfishness/ altruism to
be genuine. Having ulterior motives to be kind simply doesn’t have the same energetic
effect as sincere kindness.
There are
people who are born virtuously kind but kindness can and should be cultivated.
Why? – Because it’s good and positive to everyone involved! Let’s see what science
tells us about that.
Research
studies in the field of contemplative
neuroscience published, prove what kindness actually does in the brain, but
put in simple terms for simplicity of understanding they can be translated as:
“Individual acts of kindness release both endorphins and oxytocin, and create new
neural connections. The implications for such plasticity of the brain are that altruism and kindness become
self-authenticating”.
Contrary to
the stress hormones, these “feel good” hormones have a positive and almost
immediate effect, when someone is doing a kind act as it causes the brain to release endorphins, the chemicals that give the feelings of a high vibe. Being kind also gives the brain a serotonin boost, the chemical that gives the feeling of satisfaction and general well-being.
Everyone likes to receive a gift, but the joy of giving can be superior to receiving, and then the experience is the most gratifying when it becomes a give and take – it becomes fulfilling and everlasting.
Saint
Francis of Assisi’s famous quote illustrates it very well: “It is in giving that we receive”. Saint Francis did not only say nice quotes as
this one, he actually abandoned a life of luxury and gave everything away for a
life devoted to Christianity after reportedly hearing the voice of God, who - as he wrote - commanded him to rebuild the
Christian church and live in poverty. Unfortunately and sadly (in my opinion)
Christianity today resembles zero of the teachings of Jesus, and so we now
might think Saint Francis gave all his luxury possessions for nothing?!... In
reality his experience was part of his path and it marked a lot of people in
which I include myself.
Not
everyone is expected to be another Saint Francis, but being kind to oneself and
being kind to all living beings, could and should be a way of life for all.
Kindness generates kindness
If you are
not one of those - born virtuously kind - know that - kindness can be cultivated and exercised to become a self-reinforcing routine habit
requiring less and less effort to exercise as it becomes a natural way of life.
There is
actual data from Functional Magnetic Resonance (FMR) scans showing that even
the act of imagining compassion and kindness activates the soothing and
affiliation component of the emotional regulation system of the brain, and this
is the reason why meditation with actual visualizations within the mind’s eye
(the third eye) works so well.
Kindness
must be practiced in oneself first! When this is achieved, then it
automatically takes action into others. The more kindness you engage in, the
more kindness you receive.
Kindness
requires action though - at a basic level – it needs to be cultivated toward
ourselves as well as others, opening our hearts with compassion for one another,
dropping judgments, self-centeredness and self-aggrandizing.
Respect
must walk hand-in-hand with kindness! I don’t have to agree with you, but I
respect you, I respect the differences between us and I am kind to me and to
you.
The brain
is as complex as fascinating; a self-organizing system that simulates and
represents experiences through competitive as well as cooperative activity of
populations of neurons. But this complex system is malleable, and its optimal
functioning, depends on the flexibility of the person's behavior in a generalized
sort of way. There must be a dynamic balance for a global integration between
the mental, emotional and physical states for the optimal functional brain to
fully thrive.
A research in the field of contemplative neuroscience done by Zoran Josipovic, a PhD research associate at NYU - Cognitive Neurophysiology Lab, Comprehensive Epilepsy Center and Co-founder of the Margam series of talks at New York University - showcased current research on meditation and consciousness. Also being the Founding director of Nonduality Institute, an independent center for the science and practice of nondual meditation, specializing in the areas of Cognitive Neuroscience, Affective Neuroscience and Consciousness and the Brain, Zoran Josipovic “has stated that kindness and related competencies can be trained, resulting in both functional and structural neural plasticity. Training in such complex practices, which require simultaneous activation of perceptual, affective and cognitive capacities, increases global synchronization and integration among different networks, leading to enhanced mobilization of the brain's resources and increased processing efficiency. Future research will specify to what degree capacities such as kindness, love and compassion are innate predispositions as opposed to being learned skills. Such research could help us to realize the benefit of that ancient but extraordinary insight from spiritual traditions, which says that the highest good is already present in all of us, and it only needs liberating and cultivating, to blossom and bear fruits of benefit for all”.
Dr. Zoran Josipovic’s findings can be an incentive to start working on oneself; if you think you are not kind to yourself or to others and often say: - this is not in me, I am too stressed, I am too impatient, or whatever excuse you may find! Now you know it is, and all you have to do is go into yourself, dig in and find it.
But how?
- Go within by getting yourself in a meditative state – away from noise, relaxing, taking a few nice deep breaths, and ask the question:
- “Where is my kindness”, “where is the good in me”, “what should I do to activate the good in me, my kindness”? Listen to the answers, and if possible visualize them, or pay attention to the signs from that moment on.
The Neuroscience of Being Kind shows a proven possible path into finding “your good”, finding your” kindness”, to facilitate the optimal everlasting balance, both on an individual level and as part of the society we all want and desire. Finding, if hidden, and developing the capacity for kindness with altruism increases positive emotions, balances social connectedness and social healthy behaviors, decreasing negative feelings we all want to avoid while molding everyone involved in a new healthier lifestyle.
Kindness is
positively contagious as it generates more kindness!
Much Love and Light!